I have watched, and read, with familiar eyes, over the last
48 hours, as a questioning of the latest viral element of pop culture, the “ALS
Challenge,” took form. Familiar,
because it was inevitable – the challenge has become so publicized, so
wide-spread, that it has taken on a life of its own. And, in our internet world, it is only a matter of time
before social criticism catches up to our behavior, and those with questions –
legitimate and sometime otherwise – become comfortable expressing an alternate viewpoint.
I, too, have some concerns about this phenomenon, but mine
go in different directions, as you may have seen that I did follow suit
and accept the challenge myself. The following is going to be somewhat long, but it
represents my continuing evolution of thought on something that has clearly
become the latest cultural phenomenon.
It may also at times come across as critical of positions other than my
own.
Let me make clear at the start that I respect virtually
every position naturally expressed in this discussion (including, btw, the
deliberate denial of some, because the reality of this disease IS horrible --
beyond what some are capable of confronting -- and the road to a possible cure
still seems an enormous distance away!) -- and even more, the dear friends who
have expressed these thoughtful concerns. Sadly, in our day, we are dangerously close to losing the ability to
have significant public discussions and debates on important issues when there is legitimate disagreement, even more
when deeply held emotional positions are involved. And therefore, simply engaging in this discussion in a
thoughtful way is important for all of us -- whether it changes a mind, or
convinces someone to contribute a penny.
We DO need to do better than dumping ice water over our own,
or a friend's or loved one's head, and video recording it to share with others
on social media. We DO need to do
better than using a high tech chain letter to put pressure on our friends and
neighbors (and, thanks to the reach of the modern technology, people we have
never (and will never) met or gotten to know.
But we also needed to do better in working to find a cure
for ALS BEFORE this idea went viral, and part of that is raising awareness
about the disease, and its impact on its sufferers, even before it leads
(directly or indirectly) to raising needed funds.
And yes, a fair amount of money that has gone to ALS this
year is money that went to equally deserving causes last year, and now will not
go to those other causes this year.
This is sad for those other needs, and unfortunate, and a real and
unavoidable consequence of living in an open marketplace society… and let me
affirm, those other causes deserve our attention, awareness and support as
well!
When the maker of a consumable product captures an increased
market share, either by improving their product or (more often) by a glitzy,
eye-catching PR move, we call that a success story in our consumerist,
capitalist society. I am confused
why it should be any different here, ESPECIALLY when the origins of the
challenge were with an ALS patient, who was searching only for a way to raise
awareness about his reality (and maybe some extra dollars for research!).
Yes, there is something that needs to be addressed when the
needed, and too-long delayed, increase in awareness about ALS comes about
specifically because the disease was connected to a catchy and attractive
exercise. The ice water challenge
was, as I understand it (and I could be wrong here), hit upon as an (admittedly
weak by comparison to the disease's hideous reality) effort to provide healthy
folks with a small and temporary approximation of the shock to the system, and
creeping loss of feeling that ALS sufferers cannot escape, as a way of tangibly
raising awareness by sharing (however small an approximation of) their
reality. Because, as the campaign
went viral, and the videos became ubiquitous, THAT understanding was lost in
the growing cultural phenomenon!
Once again, sad, but a virtually unavoidable response to the viral
success in spreading the word!
Maybe the real issues here are NOT with that honest desire
and effort to raise awareness or even in our all-too-human positive response to
his suffering and reality once we are forced to confront it. Maybe it begins with the equally human
tendency to remain in ostrich-like denial until a disease like this strikes
close enough that we can no longer bury our collective and individual head in
the sand.
But maybe it is grossly exacerbated by the toxic and
malignant growth on our society's capitalist system, which has led too many of
those who are fortunate enough to create that product or that market plan,
capture that market share, and convert it into huge profits, to care far more
about maintaining and growing those profits for themselves than they do about
what good they can do by using those profits to improve the human condition for
people beyond themselves and their inner circle.
Because part of the ugly truth that requires us to change
here are the huge profits pocketed by many at the top of our economic food
chain, while too large a percentage of the philanthropic and charitable givers
in America and the world today are those with far more limited funds, requiring
us who do give to necessarily triage between competing worthy causes, sometimes
under supporting or ignoring
completely causes we wish we could support (even though the sheer size of the
occasional gifts from the top of the earning ladder usually control the
decision making process for how our smaller contributions are spent!).
Sadly, any meaningful discussion of our concerns about what
is wrong with the current reality MUST deal with these economic realities, even
as we seek to improve our own awareness and behaviors. And, given the role that the internet
and social media played in the explosion of this phenomenon, the discussion
must go there as well. Both of
these truths make it far more difficult for us to bring meaningful and
necessary change to real human behaviors and profound needs.
But we cannot allow it to stop us. This past Shabbat, we read the words in Deuteronomy that
serve as both the motivation to create the prayer we Jews call Birqat Hamazon
-- the "grace after the meal" -- and its essential core. Sadly, most translations into English
have made a subtle, but incredibly significant (at least to this discussion)
mistranslation of a key word, when they read: "…when you have eaten, AND
BEEN SATISFIED, you shall bless the Eternal, your God, for the good earth with
which you have been graced…" (Dt. 8:10)
By translating the Hebrew word "v'savata" as
"satisfied," rather than the more accurate (and appropriate)
"and had your fill" (that is, enough to satisfy your hunger needs),
what is intended as a statement of awareness that once we have done what we
have to do for our own survival (and even allowed ourselves a little bit of
enjoyment in the process, hopefully), we must remember to bless the Source of
our life, all too often becomes an excuse to delay even more (or ignore
completely) our acknowledging of God's role in our survival and well-being!
After all, how many of us have been raised, in our highly
competitive, success-driven society, to "never be satisfied," even by
our own success? As usually
translated, the verse seems to allow us to hold off on praising the Eternal
until we (finally) ARE satisfied!
Which may very well be a significant contributor to the unfortunate
economic reality we have already acknowledged, and bewailed!
One other Jewish note -- several of my well-educated, deeply
socially conscious friends have invoked Maimonides "ladder of tzedakkah” (the
technical Hebrew term is best understood as far more than mere
"charity," but as righteous, charitable giving from our bounty to
help others). I appreciate their
doing so, as we can always stand a little more Jewish knowledge and awareness
in our social consciousness.
However, most of them (however accurately) refer exclusively
to the highest level of giving when they do so, and, in the process,
unintentionally, imho, sacrifice one of the brilliant teachings of the medieval
master to another one.
Maimonides posits 8 levels of giving, each one a little more
virtuous, a little more desirable, a little more valuable to the giver, to the
recipient, and to society as a whole.
The “lowest” level is described as “when donations are given
grudgingly.” Some translations
also include the phrase “only after the donor is specifically requested to
give.” The “highest” level is understood
as “to help sustain a
person before they become impoverished by offering a substantial gift in a
dignified manner, or by extending a suitable loan, or by helping them find
employment or establish themselves in business so as to make it unnecessary for
them to become dependent on others.”
The
truth is that the fact that Maimonides chose to express this understanding in
the form of a ladder is significant.
Yes, he clearly wants us to understand what the optimal form of giving
should be, and encourages us to reach for that top rung of the ladder and
achieve it. However, the ladder
matters, too, in this teaching.
BUT, by focusing on the highest rung only, we lose sight of the journey
to that goal, which, at least for me, has always been an integral part of the
lesson as well.
Some
of us need to start the climb at the lowest rung – in real life with a real
ladder, because we may have shorter legs, or be afraid or a little unstable
standing on the ladder. We
progress slowly, cautiously, step by step.
Others,
perhaps with longer legs, and more experience on ladders, might put that first
step on the second rung (or even more visually obvious, in climbing DOWN the
ladder, be willing to jump down to the ground from even higher!), or choose to
progress by skipping steps.
Either
way, the goal is the same – to reach the height we seek to reach. Sometimes, we only have a long ladder
for a short climb, and our short-term goal is a height well below the top rung.
However,
when it comes to tzedakah, to helping others (to help themselves), Maimonides
(and those who have been invoking him in this discussion) correctly assumes
that we are all striving to reach the top rung. It does not matter where we hop on the ladder, does not
matter how fast or slow, how steady or halting our progress is. To apply the mistranslation from
Deuteronomy here, we should not be satisfied until our giving reaches, and
pulls us up, to the uppermost rung.
However,
and this is the key point (to me) that I fear is missing in this discussion (at
least so far) – few of us are so good at giving, that we can automatically jump
to the top rung! Indeed, if we all
were, the odds would be greatly enhanced that research to cure diseases like
ALS would already have so profited from our much greater human generosity, that
challenges like the ice-water challenge would not even be necessary!
And
since we are not there yet, we must not only allow, but encourage, in every way
possible, those who are not yet at the top rung, or not even on the ladder yet,
to be comfortable starting or continuing the climb from wherever they are
currently at, wherever they are able and comfortable. If that means, in the short term, that we need a “gimmick”
like the ice water challenge to raise awareness and willingness to contribute, to
get more people onto the ladder, more people moving up it, then so be it. AS LONG AS WE DO NOT ALLOW THE GIMMICK
TO BECOME AN END UNTO ITSELF!
And
making progress up the ladder DOES require us to do all that we can to make
sure that our giving to this cause is an “and,” and not an “or.” To the greatest degree of our ability
to do so, our giving to this cause cannot come at the expense of giving to
other causes. To fully honor those
we seek to honor by our giving to ALS research, we can not allow it to come at
the expense of those other donations we make to support equally worthy
causes. Because, if we fail at
this, then our efforts to elevate humanity, and to bring help and healing to
others, instead becomes a hideous cousin of the “Survivor” experience – that
there can only be one winner, who succeeds only by voting everyone else off the
island.
I,
like many of the critics of the challenge, DO prefer to do tzedakah privately…
because it IS a higher level of giving.
BUT, I am also a Rabbi -- a public figure, a teacher, hopefully a role
model. I live a large part of my
life in the public eye. And
therefore, even as I respect and affirm my friends’ accurate desire to keep
their giving private, to aspire to higher levels, I also realize that, at least
for me, there are times when going public CAN serve a bigger good. And therefore, I CHOSE to share that I
was not only taking the plunge with the ice water, but ALSO making a
contribution – to encourage others, who might be tempted to see this as an
either/or NOT to make that mistake – but rather, to contribute money yes, but also
to contribute to the cause by raising awareness through accurately and properly
passing forward the intended message.
I did not, and will not, share publicly how much I am donating to this
(or any) cause – that is between me, ALSA, and God. But, I also hope that my decision to take a step DOWN the
ladder for myself allows and encourages others to take a step forward UP the
ladder, and helps bridge the gap between what I CAN give to this cause, and
what I wish I could!
I,
like many of the critics, am concerned about the element of appearing to shame
people into giving, that is inherent in a social media version of the old
fashioned chain letter. Those
letters, generally consigned to the scrapheap of human experimentation,
attempted to guilt people into keeping a chain alive by playing on their fears,
and emphasizing, in urban legend form, the terrible things that (may or may not
have actually) happened to others who made the mistake of “breaking the chain.”
I
was incredibly intentional in my selection of whom to challenge. And yes, I freely admit, one of my
factors was challenging people whom I wanted to see doused in cold water!!
HOWEVER, it was far from the ONLY factor.
I deliberately chose people from disparate areas of my friends list,
both in time and space; deliberately chose people who I thought, for a variety
of reasons, would make good “messengers” for the cause – their vocations, their
locations and ability to spread the message to areas that might not yet be
over-fertilized (like my newsfeed has become), their possible connections to
people who have experienced the disease, their ability and willingness to give
to a good cause like this, their personalities – the willingness to risk a
little public embarrassment for a good cause, their desire to be part of
educating the masses.
There
was never an intent to shame anyone into anything – indeed, not all of those I
challenged have (at least so far), posted video. I hope (but do not know, and am fine with not knowing) that
they are all making contributions of some form… but then again, I hope that of
all 1400+ of my Facebook “friends” – whether I challenged them or not. The possibility that I might be
“shaming” any of them never entered my mind – perhaps it needed to, and is yet
another “catch-up” we must make to living in the social media age! But it never did.
However,
the “art of the ask” – the centerpiece of successful fundraising – necessarily
involves an element of putting pressure on potential donors – at least until
their awareness and experience of the need or cause reaches the level when they
need not be convinced to give (but still may need to be “encouraged” to give
“more”). So, I can only apologize
if my actions put UNDUE pressure on any of my friends. And question whether any such
unnecessary, unwarranted, and undesired pressure outweighs the benefits of
using social media to reach a far greater audience for what I consider to be a
good cause. I believe it still
does, despite the blow-back discussions now underway. I hope I am accurate in that assessment!
I
thank my friends who have not walked in lockstep to follow this latest fad, for
forcing me, and others, to think more clearly about my actions and my
motivations, and the value of my efforts.
I especially thank them for the thoughtful ways they have chosen to do
so – ways that allowed the message of greater awareness and support to still
move forward! I respect their
right to question – encourage it.
I agree with the critics – the ALS challenge is an imperfect
undertaking. However, for me, by
definition, it MUST be so – it is a human undertaking! Whether it is a better effort than
other similar efforts, I cannot judge, and have no need to. I will say, however, it was effective
with me, and apparently with many others.
Can
we do better? Yes, because until
we are perfect, we CAN always do better next time! And next time we will hopefully learn from this effort and do
even better. Because, when it
comes to helping others, to working to eliminate pain and suffering, then the
mistranslation of Deuteronomy we mentioned before really does apply – we should
never be fully satisfied until ALL pain and suffering are gone from human
experience!